I had good luck, but with out-of-towners. I love to travel, even if it is alone. So, I hooked up with some ladies who live somewhere I haven't been, and went there. It has worked out great! If that is not for you, try meetup.com. These are groups with similar interests that meet in your area for movies, brunch, outdoor activities, etc. There is a whole set of people out there. Good luck!

Some on this site have mentioned that you have to be persistent to make new friends, just keep putting the word out there and sometimes someone will introduce you to someone else who becomes a friend (or at least an acquaintance).  Maybe it's just me, but I haven't found that to work at all; I'm getting to the point where I'd rather not mention to people that I'm looking to make more friends and inviting people to go get coffee, etc.; it's gotten to be embarassing because just aboout everyone I've tried that with has looked shocked and said stuff along the lines of "sorry not interested; don't you have any friends at all you can go to coffee with besides me?!"  The feeling seems to be--and a lot of psychologists even seem to agree, according to their recent books anyway--that if you're much over the age of 8 and don't have friends or don't have enough, that it's too late now, you aren't ever going to; you should've made friends long before now, what's wrong with you, etc.  I guess it's kind of like that old Catch22 of you can't get a job 'till you have experience and you can't get experience 'till you get a job.  Same thing with friends, I guess; if you don't have friends (or very many anyway), you can't make new ones (who wants to be friends with a loser, so to speak).  So I've pretty much given up.  But good luck to the rest of you; maybe it's just me.

my daughter signed me up many months ago stating that i needed "Friends", to be honest i was a little hesitant. in reading all your responses it has made me feel at ease, esp. knowing that i am not the only lonely one in this world. 

I find myself in a new place. It is beginning for me! First, my hairdresser, who has heard my lament for at least a year about 'having no friends', called me out of the blue. Another client was sad because it was her 50th birthday and her husband was out of town on business and she had no friends. My hairdresser put 2 and 2 together and called me up and invited me to birthday lunch with this gal. She is my 'new best friend'! Another gal from Social Jane contacted me and we have been corresponding and tomorrow we are meeting each other for the first time over lunch. Then,I joined a 'senior theatre group' and met 14 of the lovliest people with like interests. We just performed together in a musical at the Tacoma Musical Playhouse this past weekend and had the cast party at our house. I am so happy...I said to my husband today, "Why could'nt this have happened three years ago when I moved here?" I guess the moral of the story is: It doesn't happen over night and slow and steady wins the race" If it hasn't happened for you yet, don't give up!

I've moved to new towns several times (9 states and counting).  I use the newspaper and websites to find out about things to go to, and I'm huge on searching for my interests nearby with Mapquest.  Joining a faith community, if that's of interest, can be a big help.  Joining a group exercise class of some sort helps too, if you attend regularly, you'll start seeing the same people.  One of my favorite tricks is to take group lessons, horseback riding, sewing, swimming, whatever.  Having weekly appointments helps when you are new in town, and the teachers and other students can become friends.  It really helps to persist.  Often, friendships start to develop when I take the second session of a class because then I'm familiar to the other students, and somehow people are a little more open to talking when they've seen you before.  Keep telling yourself things will be much better a year from now.  Expect to have days of enthusiasm and days of discouragement, too.  After a day or two of "why did I do this" something good will happen and you'll be back to "I'm so excited about this".

Good for you! I have the same story, not much locally, but I met 2 nice ladies who live in other parts of the country that I will meet when I go near them.

I am excited...still no new contacts in my Tacoma,WA area but Bekka from Monerey and I are going to meet up when I am down there to visit family! Fun!

I believe that this site is still fairly new & I only found it when I got flustered one day and googled "social groups" or something and it appeared.- One way I was thinking about getting this site out is through my church and handing out a piece of paper with the site name and something about meeting other women to be buddies, etc... to the women in my church (or leaving on counter in women's bathroom) AND then leaving some at gymnastics when the girls are there - - just getting the word out in my area and them curious about what it is and HOPE they join to meet others too! I dunno if its Korney or not BUT I am fairly certain that not many women are even aware this site exists or not - - :)  ANYONE can email me and be my email buddy and maybe phone buddy and who knows....maybe I know of someone OR get the chance in the near future to hear about/meet someone in your area looking for a friend, coffee or walking buddy! Perseverance until our personal goals are met and then some I say!!!

Bekka, if I lived near Montrerrey, I would walk with you every day. Monterrey is one of my favorite places!