Life and finding girlfriends after 50

Posted 145 Days Ago By Debbie-Deb

Hi all. I live in St. Louis, 55 yrs old, married 30 years w/three, adult 'children', out on their own. About a year ago, my job with a school district was downsized :( I now find myself BORED to tears! Only so many 'projects' I can keep busy with. Not really interested in getting back into the job market, but I really miss the camaraderie of female friendships. Most of my friends are still working and not available to just 'hang out' during the week days. So many volunteer opportunities have mostly 'older' women (60's) which is perfectly ok, but even tho' I'm not a kid (55), I am so not ready to sit back in 'retirement' mode. I have a goofy sense of humor and love to laugh and just have fun. I miss the spontaneity of special friends 'ready to just go', at any time to enjoy something....anything! I have a close friend from HS and she's great but, unlike me, she needs to work. Aren't there any married women out there that are 'stay at home wives', looking to just hang out and chill when the mood strikes them with some other girlfriends? My husband and I do 'couple' thing, but week days......? Where have all the 'girlfriends' gone?

Zip it!

Posted 33 Days Ago By Debbie-Deb

I mean really! If I want advice, who better to communicate with but other females. The forums are a great way for all of us to 'give our two cents'. Change can be good but I think feedback from all of us as to what we think, would have been nice.
Oh well---nice chatting. Take care everyone. Live, learn and laugh OFTEN :)

Forums

Posted 33 Days Ago By justretired

According to the newsletter, the forums section of SJ will be closing in September. So, no more chatting, ladies! It's been fun!

Girlfriends....where are you :)

Posted 35 Days Ago By Debbie-Deb

Nope Flora0426, you are not alone. Frustrating isn't it? I do hope you connect with some gal friends that you'll hit it off with :)
Gamrivers, I noticed you live in Chesterfield, Mo. What are you retired from? Are you a 'native' St. Lousian? Oh wait, I have to ask, 'what high school did you go to?' hahahaha (St. Louis humor).
Deborah123 (nice name by the way :)' I hope you find some new friends in NC. By the way, my oldest daughter lives in Winston Salem, NC. She married a Pilot Mountain, NC cutie--they're both school teachers.
Not much luck here in St. Louis with the new friends search. Hard to push myself into new groups---never know who you'll be mingling with--I know, I know--have to start somewhere but it's still kind of 'scary' to stick myself out there, if you know what I mean. I'll keep plugging away and I'm open to suggestions.
Debbie

more sympathy, no answers

Posted 35 Days Ago By flora0426

I'm so relieved to learn that I'm not in this boat alone! Being newly single & a former work-from-homer, I am scouting around for buddies to do stuff with. I'm not good at joining big groups; one-on-one seems much more comfortable. Think I'm doing the right things, i.e., I joined a like-minded spiritual group & volunteer there; signed up for meetup.com/elifeadventures.com, but that, too, is a bit intimidating without a buddy to go along with. Hence, this site. Too bad more of us aren't in closer vicinity of each other. Well, there's a zen saying about "just keep putting one foot in front of the other, in the direction of your goal" and something will work out. So that's my plan of action. Here's to us all achieving our goal:-)

New to SocialJane and available

Posted 39 Days Ago By gamrivers

Hello - I believe we're in the same boat, retired and looking to make new friends. I'm new to SocialJane so this is my first attempt at "reaching out". My schedule is open and flexible. I try to walk daily, enjoy riding my bike, movies, dining out, shopping, all the girlie stuff. I would truly enjoy making a new friend.

life and finding girlfriends after 50

Posted 46 Days Ago By Deborah123

Hello St. Louis. I think you have a great attitude and you should keep on going honey!!! I just recently decided to seek out other women and just find new friends. Its healthy to be able to just talk to other women and get feedback on life.. I am 52 yrs old, married for 19 yrs and learning how to live for me now. This is going to be my new life and I want to enjoy so much more. Things change and you have to learn change can do you good sometimes.

Hear ya!

Posted 64 Days Ago By RunnerLynn

Debbie, Seems you've found some sympathizers, myself included, but no real solution. I also lament "Where have all the girlfriends gone?" I'm a bit younger than you, 48, not retired, but have a very flexible schedule and wish I had someone I could spontaneously meet for coffee or lunch. Had to laugh at the post by justretired. I spent a short period of time on match.com and had a similar experience. I was only on it a short time since I met my husband that way. You'd think that if women could find husbands online we could find friends, too! I understand what you're saying about volunteering. I'm not into being around "older" women, either. Have no interest in "retirement mode". Wish I had a suggestion for you.

Feeling the same way

Posted 66 Days Ago By PatPat

Debbie,i tee-totally agree w/you. its unfornate that i live in nj. i am 51 retired from my business w/a 27yr old daughter married and bored to death as well. Got this job at the VFW as a bartendar 1/day a wk just to socialize and what a disaster. Love the job, just don't care for the bar batter, plus 90% are in their 80's and theirs nothing wrong with that. BUT.....i am sure you catch what i mean....patty

girlfriends

Posted 114 Days Ago By justretired

Ladies, in 3 days, I corresponded with maybe 25 guys on match.com about 12 years ago. Why can you meet a LOT of men, but no women?? Maybe women will just go more out of their way (both literally and figuratively) to meet a man than a woman. Just a thought!

Life and finding girlfriends after 50

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